we’ve combined our blogs together (imported Aylwin’s Observations into liann.c)…. so still editing and adjusting a few things.
one problem though, i don’t know how to separate the older posts published by Ayl with mine.
don’t know what it is?
try dealing with a 2year old toddler everyday and you’ll know the exact meaning of it. don’t have to be in politics or business.
nearly everyday i have to struggle with Arielle on simple things like eating her food, toning down so she doesn’t wake her brother up, getting dressed, going to bed… but most of all, not to touch things she shouldn’t be touching.
she listens according to her mood or when chocolate is offered (this is a sureproof way) but most of the time; 7 out of 10, she just does whatever she wants whatever we say. things get worse when i’ve to attend to Ashton first.
just yesterday during nap time, she said she’s not sleepy (when she is!) and doesn’t want to nap – usually, i’ll convince her to sleep but yesterday i thought i’ll let her go her own way. so i told her, if you don’t want to nap, you mustn’t cry later and no tantrums.
so with much difficulty, i put Ashton to bed because this lil missy was making so much noise; whining and playing with stuff. and then she started getting cranky and asking for this and that (not really wanting them), just being ‘funny’; touching things she knows she shouldn’t. so after much heedless warnings from me, she got some smacking. she cried very loudly and terribly as if it’s the worst thing ever and didn’t want to stop. needless to say Ashton got up, and because he didn’t get enough sleep, he cried as well.
OH!!! i was soooo mad – emotionally and psychologically!! these kind of days really test my patience and sanity. i felt as if i could slap her senseless.
and then i’m reminded about what LOVE is supposed to be in 1 Corinthhians 13:4-8, through a bookmark which i was using for a book i was reading. wonder why i didn’t really notice the contents before.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is no proud. It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps not record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.’
oh Lord forgive me for being so quick to anger. i pray that i’ll always be reminded of this so that i’m able to be a good parent to these 2 small, innocent and beautiful children of mine.
Saw this mail in my inbox today; thought it’s worth sharing <thanks Siew Bee!>
LONGEST MARRIED COUPLE (85 YEARS!)…GIVES RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina . They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this? Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104 .
The happily married couple teamed up with twitter this Valentine’s Day to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love, getting through hard times and more . Good read.
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives
together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and
secure. Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime.
3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true. Love each other with ALL of your heart
6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us. I married a good man!
7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day. Herbert left work early & surprised me when he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax –
the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
8. You got married very young? How did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1
10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long
periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind. <Edit: LOL… even with my wife, we both sometimes almost lose our minds taking care of our two kids together!>
12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest. Never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win <Edit: Couldn’t agree more>
13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree & fight for what really
matters. Learn to bend – not break! <Edit: Reminder to self!!>
14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
We are both Christians & believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to God. We pray with & for each other every day.
i love how Arielle is learning language; esp when she applies words correctly in a context.
1. Silly Girl – just this late afternoon, she woke up and started crying and crying for no reason. that woke Ash up and i was just beside her on the bed. she wanted to pee, so i said she should go to her pot in the toilet. she wanted me to go with her, but i was lazy and it was warm and cozy in bed so i didn’t follow her. she didn’t stop her crying and went to the toilet on her own. in fact, she started to cry even more. so… i went to check on her.
i asked her nicely what was wrong and she couldn’t answer; so i reasoned with her that she’s just going to her potty to pee, nothing wrong with that. and then immediately she stopped crying and started giggling. (???) to that, i said ‘Silly Girl’.
then we were watching Disney’s sitcoms during teatime; one episode of ‘Jonas’ with a girl doing funny stuff and then all of a sudden, Arielle said ‘Silly Girl’! hmm… she catches on real quick huh.
2. Sad – Arielle’s been taking medicine for her cough and because she’s sick, i’ve stopped giving her snacks like pudding/sweets/cold juices but mainly chocolates. while watching tv one day (also Disney), i pointed out that one of the characters in the show is sad. she said with a sad face,’he’s sad because he cannot eat chocolate; cough cough cough.’
i thought it was so funny. but it’s good that she’s getting the meaning of the words correctly at such a tender age! 🙂