Power Struggle

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don’t know what it is?

try dealing with a 2year old toddler everyday and you’ll know the exact meaning of it. don’t have to be in politics or business.

nearly everyday i have to struggle with Arielle on simple things like eating her food, toning down so she doesn’t wake her brother up, getting dressed, going to bed… but most of all, not to touch things she shouldn’t be touching.

she listens according to her mood or when chocolate is offered (this is a sureproof way) but most of the time; 7 out of 10, she just does whatever she wants whatever we say. things get worse when i’ve to attend to Ashton first.

just yesterday during nap time, she said she’s not sleepy (when she is!) and doesn’t want to nap – usually, i’ll convince her to sleep but yesterday i thought i’ll let her go her own way. so i told her, if you don’t want to nap, you mustn’t cry later and no tantrums.

O.K!

so with much difficulty, i put Ashton to bed because this lil missy was making so much noise; whining and playing with stuff. and then she started getting cranky and asking for this and that (not really wanting them), just being ‘funny’; touching things she knows she shouldn’t. so after much heedless warnings from me, she got some smacking. she cried very loudly and terribly as if it’s the worst thing ever and didn’t want to stop. needless to say Ashton got up, and because he didn’t get enough sleep, he cried as well.

OH!!! i was soooo mad – emotionally and psychologically!! these kind of days really test my patience and sanity. i felt as if i could slap her senseless.

and then i’m reminded about what LOVE is supposed to be in 1 Corinthhians 13:4-8, through a bookmark which i was using for a book i was reading. wonder why i didn’t really notice the contents before.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is no proud. It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps not record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.’

oh Lord forgive me for being so quick to anger. i pray that i’ll always be reminded of this so that i’m able to be a good parent to these 2 small, innocent and beautiful children of mine.

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4 responses »

  1. Li-Anne,I am facing the same issue too, my Alexis is now 19 months, and she do whatever she likes, when we warn her of the things she shouldn’t do, she will purposely do it again, if we spank her, she will cries as loud as she can, gosh, I feel like spanking her as well sometimes..oh Lord please grant me the love to love my kids as well.
    But thank God Alexis is able to accept the new addition to the family, she keeps sayang him everytime when she wakes up..=), it warms my heart when I see it. =)

  2. Chin up, RaRa. You’re a lovely person and I know that would surely carry into your parenting as is evident in this blog entry of yours šŸ™‚ well done.

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