Daily Archives: August 5, 2010

what is SAHM?


SAHM – Stay At Home Mom

so i’m back and not working but staying home with the kids. people start asking me what i do at home with them… a simple question i cannot find an answer to. it’s been slightly more than a month already, what have i been doing with them at home?

how do i define the exact job description of a Stay Home Mom??

i ‘officially’ get up from the bed at 8am or 8.30am; ‘officially’ because i was never even fully knocked-out asleep anyway since my no.2 was born (he’s 9months now) but still rouses once or twice in the night. my guess is he’s just checking on us, i don’t know. in addition to that, since my no.1 still shares our room but on her own bed, she gets up sometime at night to use her potty. i know i don’t have to supervise her anymore, but i’m just up just in case.

and then there are the miserable nights when no.1 gets bitten by mozzies and couldn’t stop-whining-and-go-to-bed where i get only 45% of sleep at night because if she doesn’t stop, no.2 will get up as well and THEN, there will be no sleep at all for everyone! that’s life living in the tropical country!

i also get up most nights to switch off the air-con and then open the window for ventilation; to which the Muslim morning prayers will wake me near 6am because we stay so near the mosque. by 7am, Ayl’s alarm would set off but i’d make sure he gets up on time for his bath and work.

babysitting ain’t easy when i also have housework to do. there are laundry and diapers to be washed, dried, folded and kept; there’s the floor to be kept clean for no.2 to crawl on; there is mealtime which means i’ll need to find the time to prepare food before they get hungry and cranky; there is bathtime and naptime and playtime – all these with a lot of attention and focus needed. since no.2 is only 9months, he needs more naptime and often when he’s tired and i’m too busy, he’d get really cranky – and then i’ll go crazy. 🙂 it’s difficult to juggle a curious and active 2+y.o. child with a baby especially when it comes to naptimes; when one wants to sleep and the other one doesn’t. but i thank God that my lil one is a good girl, she’d keep really quiet when i tell her to so that her younger brother gets to sleep. because then, mommy gets to play with her!

EVERYDAY IS UNPREDICTABLE! when things go smooth (no one goes cranky and everyone is ‘tame’), it’s good. but when things go bad, it can get really bad – like losing my sanity!! so what’s the trick to keeping the peace?

1. ensure all their needs are met and satisfied before doing other insignificant things ie laundry, or if you can hold it from going to the toilet or… checking your FB!

2. if you need to prepare food but can’t find the time to – wake up before the kids do or prepare them the day before or whenever you have free time.

3. forget about ME-time; until they’re asleep or when your spouse is back home to take over… for a while. this include your bath/toilet time 😛 well, you know what they say, Love is Sacrifice!

so, this is my day everyday. when i get some ME-time, i try baking (very new at this) and i update my blog!