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The Noble Wife

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last thursday marked our 4th wedding anniversary, how time flies. the walk down the aisle is still fresh on my mind 🙂

so i was reading up on what the Bible has to say (more like a reminder) about wives, these are just some of the many verses i found in my New Living Translation.

Eph 5:22 – You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.

Titus 2:4 – These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to take care of their homes, to do good and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

Prov 12:4 – A worthy wife is her husband’s joy and crown; a shameful wife saps his strength.

Prov 18:22 – The man who finds a wife finds a treasure and receives favour from the Lord.

Prov 21:19 – It is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby, complaining wife.

and more… but the verse that caught me most of all is this one here.

Prov 31:10-31 – Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. 12 She will no hinder him but help him all her life. 13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. 14 She is like a merchant’s ship; she brings her food from afar. 15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. 16 She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. 18 She watches for bargains; her lights burn late into the night. 19 Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber. 20 She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. 21 She has no fear of winter for her household because all of them have warm clothes.

22 She quilts her own bedspreads. She dresses like royalty in gowns of finest cloth. 23 Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council meeting with the other civic leaders. 24 She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants. 25 She is clothes with strength and dignity, and she laughs with no fear of the future.

26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. 27 She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. 28 Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: 29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. 31 Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

One word –> SUPAWOMAN!!!

this lady gets up before the sun and sleeps late at night; she manages the house & servants; she knows about trading & currency; she threads and sews; she even plants her own vineyard; etc; all of these and she doesn’t blow up and go crazy on the kids and husband from all the stress.

OR maybe, she doesn’t have 2 really young and demanding  kids like i do… aaaaannnnd, it doesn’t say that she has to make dinner every night before the husband gets home from work. 🙂

there, now i feel a little comforted.

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Living examples

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Saw this mail in my inbox today; thought it’s worth sharing <thanks Siew Bee!>

LONGEST MARRIED COUPLE (85 YEARS!)…GIVES RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

 Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina . They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this? Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104 .

The happily married couple teamed up with twitter this Valentine’s Day to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love, getting through hard times and more . Good read.

1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives
together? Were you scared at all?

H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and
secure. Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?

We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime. 

3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?

We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?

Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true. Love each other with ALL of your heart 

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?

Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us. I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?

Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day. Herbert left work early & surprised me when he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!

Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax –
the look on her face & clean plate made my day!

8. You got married very young? How did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?

“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?

Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1
great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?

The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long
periods of time?

Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind. <Edit: LOL… even with my wife, we both sometimes almost lose our minds taking care of our two kids together!>

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest. Never keep a score. God has put the  two of you together on the same team to win <Edit: Couldn’t agree more>

13. Is fighting important?

NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree & fight for what really
matters. Learn to bend – not break! <Edit: Reminder to self!!>

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?

We are both Christians & believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to God. We pray with & for each other every day.

3rd year anniversary

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today is our 3rd year anniversary… how time has flown! we’re closer to being 3 decade old, Arielle will be 2 years old this year… and then some. 🙂 

our journey together started on May 19th where we registered at Putrajaya, and then church ceremony and reception on May 20th. happiest day of my life as i committed myself in front of God and loved ones to my beloved friend and now husband. 

look how thin we were!

look how thin we were!

saya janji saya akan masak dinner sebaik yang boleh

saya janji saya akan masak dinner sebaik yang boleh

husband and wife lawfully

husband and wife lawfully

finally after more than 1hr's gruelling torture from the 'chi-mui's

finally after more than 1hr's gruelling torture from the 'chi-mui's

kiss the bride

kiss the bride

after the kiss... KC the cameraman caught the moment

after the kiss... KC the cameraman caught the moment

church ceremony

church ceremony

the front crew

the front crew

family pic

family pic with a few members MIA

cheers

cheers

so, how is married life so far? hmm… good; i can say that just within these 3 years, we’ve experienced a lot; one of the obvious reasons is because of Arielle and the shift here to Bratislava. life is different being a married couple and not staying with our family, more different when we have Arielle, and even more different when we’re in a different country. but i suppose we’ve been independent since our uni days – we’ve learnt and shared a lot together and this has taught us to depend on each other and on God. 

it’s without a doubt by God’s grace and favour that we are where we are today. we’re also always surrounded with good people – those who have given us wise counsel and those who have always made themselves available for us have in one way or another have tighten the bond in our friendship and consequently our marriage. i pray that in 50 or 60 years down the road, we’ll still be able to maintain the love, trust and faith we have for each other … by much of God’s grace and goodness inevitably. 

I LOVE YOU AYLWIN LEONG! BLESSED ANNIVERSARY DEAR!  

muah!!

muah!!