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Why got ‘Lobang’?


there’s a hooooooooooooole in my bread!!! its no wonder i don’t get full eating and eating this. there are 8 buns in this packet, and all of them has a big hole like this in it. so not worth my RM2.50. next time i’ll just get a cup of kaya (coconut jam) and a loaf of Gardenia bread instead.



In Need of More Solids


… am listening to audio sermons from KAOG archive. the longest sermons here at church last for 20mins max, and we don’t have to refer to our Bibles. the message is mostly on the surface – well, maybe just for me; but the minister is an interesting and funny guy. i always enjoy listening to him, would be great if he could dwell a little bit deeper and longer on his topics though.

anyways, guess i can get some solids from the link here to ‘keep the fire burning’. plus, it’s good to hear some good ol Malaysian humour we miss so much.

Unconsciously Judging


i’ve been spending more time with my friend Annette and her baby Chantal these days. We share a lot of things to each other about our family, our culture and our opinions and perception of things. As we come from such different backgrounds, there’s always something new to learn about each other.

this question just came to me again as i reflect on the things i’ve thought and shared out loud with her about cultures and people, most of the time talking about the differences in the Western with our Asian culture; they’re mostly my thoughts and not necessarily facts.

was i being too judgemental? why did i think like that?

this question came about the 1st time when ayl and i had a bad encounter with our neighbours on Christmas day itself. there was a car parked right behind us, blocking our exit and there was no other way out unless the driver moved his car. what else are we to do? there was no note or number to call so like what we usually do in Malaysia, we started to honk. it was really loud, and we waited for 5 – 10mins in the cold, but no one came. what next? as we continued our honking, we heard someone shouted really loudly from the apartment opposite. it was unintelligible coz it was in Slovak (so we didn’t know it was because of us); after another loud press on the horn, a man appeared at the balcony and shouted loudly at us in Slovak with his fist and disappeared quickly in. ayl and i were shocked!! and we felt sorry too to be causing so much racket in the middle of the day, but we couldn’t understand a word from the guy till a passerby interpretted for us – ‘baby sleeping’, what’s more, we’re stuck in this spot in the cold! as we considered for a few mins to either wait some more in silence or go back into the house, the driver finally came and removed his car. both ayl and i glared at him… 😛

needless to say, we were quite upset over what had happened. we felt really terrible for causing so much trouble on Christmas day; but at the same time, i felt intimidated as well. my blood started to boil all of a sudden and questions started going through my mind that night.

why did he have to shout? why can’t he be more civilized? how rude is that? why couldn’t he see we were in a spot? what else were we supposed to do? are Slovaks so bad tempered and ‘uneducated’?

this went on for a few days as i was quite upset over the incident. then come one day as i was pondering about this again and comparing mental notes with what facts that Annette has shared with me about Slovakia and its history during communism (Slovakia declared their Independence only in 1993), God showed me how i had judged too quickly, how i didn’t stop to understand first before i started to form negative opinions of these people. guiltily i confessed and repented. i would tell myself again and again now, to ‘seek first to understand, then to be understood’.

a few days later, ‘Our Daily Bread’ devotional taught on Judging – how timely for me.

January 9, 2009

To Judge Or Not To Judge

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READ: Matthew 7:1-21

Judge not, that you be not judged. —Matthew 7:1

What better way to tell people to mind their own business than to quote Jesus? People who seldom read the Bible are quick to quote Matthew 7:1 when they want to silence someone whose opinion they don’t like. “Judge not, that you be not judged” seems like the perfect response.

In context, however, the passage indicates that we are indeed to judge; we’re just supposed to avoid faulty judgments. Furthermore, our judgments are to begin with self: “First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye,” Jesus said (v.5). He then said, “Beware of false prophets” (v.15). This too requires judging—we need to be able to discern truth from falsehood.

Jesus used the metaphor of fruit to give us the proper criteria for judging. “By their fruits you will know them” (v.20). We are to judge people (including ourselves) by the quality of the fruit they produce. This fruit cannot be judged by earthly values such as how good we look (v.15). It must be judged by heavenly values—the fruit of the Spirit produced within us—love, joy, peace (Gal. 5:22).

Our tendency is to judge by appearance. But God judges by what we produce, and so should we. —Julie Ackerman Link

They truly lead who lead by love
And humbly serve the Lord;
Their lives will bear the Spirit’s fruit
And magnify His Word. —D. De Haan

Be slow to judge others and quick to judge yourself.

What am I?


many people whom we met are surprised that Ayl and i have such good command of english, and they get more confused when we tell them that we speak English at home with our parents. because of this, i think ppl find it a bit difficult to guess where we come from and what our culture is. for a start, English is considered as Malaysia’s second language; for some it might be the 3rd.

Malaysia has 3 main races – Malays, Chinese, Indians. the Malays speak Malay, the Indians speak Tamil and the Chinese speak Mandarin, Cantonese and other dialects. Each race has their own dialect as well; as i’m not sure what the dialects are for the Malays and the Indians, i’ll talk about the Chinese only.

i am Chinese, so are my parents, my grandparents and my great-grandparents, i’m Malaysian Chinese; and no i don’t have any connection with our ‘motherland’ China since we have been in Malaysia for more than 4 generations. my family speak mainly Hokkien at home, and some English because all of us except my grandmother who is Chinese educated. my grandfather is English educated and went to a school all of us went for 3 generations; it’s called the St. Xavier’s Institution; Malaysia was previously a British colony, while the girls went to study in one of the many Convent schools in Penang.

St Xavier's Institution; Labor Omnia Vincit

St Xavier's Institution, Labor Omnia Vincit

we studied English formally since kindergarten at 6 years old and up till 17 years old in high school/secondary school. this is the same with Bahasa Malaysia (BM), these 2 languages are compulsory in Malaysian schools even if we were to attend a Chinese school (where Mandarin is main) or a Tamil school (where Tamil is main). so this is to say that we actually studied ‘The Queen’s English’ for 11 years!! hmmm… the polite, elegant and polished Queen’s English – such a vast difference from the native speakers of this supposed language in the British movies we see. 🙂

the English that we speak however is not purely English, not like the native speakers of English – our language is called Manglish and we’re kinda proud of it, well that’s coz it’s unique! it’s something similar to what the Singaporeans use which they call Singlish. with Manglish, we use a lot of ‘lah’ and we mix all the languages/dialects that we know to a spoken English base.

but i need to emphasize that not all of us malaysians have good spoken English, i must add that Ayl and i graduated with B.Ed TESL (Teaching English as a Second Language). one of the main reasons some are not so competent is because of their education background or family background. not all come from English speaking homes and schools like we did. nevertheless, mostly are able to communicate fairly well in a conversation.

there is a bad side to knowing so much of English and only so little of Mandarin. being a Chinese, generally ppl would assume that i’d be speaking Mandarin as well. that is not the case however. i picked up Mandarin only during my years in the university and then continued later on when it was essential in my job function. i still can’t say that i’m able to converse confidently in Mandarin with a native Mandarin speaker, maybe just the basics. in the university, ppl who are like me are labeled as ‘Banana’ – yellow outside and white inside.



i don’t really care about this because i was brought up with Hokkien (which is a Chinese dialect) and not Mandarin (the universal language used by Chinese), but sometimes the teasing can be a bit too much and it can get a bit insulting. meantime, i’m still thinking of a fruit that can resemble these ppl who thinks they’re more Chinese than i am. 😛

i have no regrets whatsoever that i’m more proficient in English as compared to Mandarin; coz even though Mandarin might be the ‘universal language used by the Chinese’, English is the ‘INTERNATIONAL language’! THERE! how bout that! 🙂

how come? how long?


today’s wordpress’ top post was regarding our Malaysian political arena. as i was reading some of the many comments which it has attracted, there was particularly one that caught my attention. it’s disappointing to know that there are still idiots out there who are fighting for their own race to rule, (even though they’re the majority and they’re already ruling the country) and is still believing the claim that other races other than the majority are immigrants and should be going back to their respective homelands.

what generation and time are we in now, for someone to still have that kind of mentality? how did the claim come about and how did it started? what is the belief of Islam when they say ‘all men are equal’?

Catholics are Christians…no?


was just reading a blog on a celebrity who was rumoured to convert his religion to Christianity from being a Catholic and there were numerous comments made that Catholics are already Christians; so what is the big deal and so on.

my mom is a Catholic, and i’m a Protestant, is she a Christian?

she was brought up that way, her side of the family are Catholics but some of them have converted to being Protestants a few years ago. and because of that, there’s conflict sometimes when they get together. to my mom, she is a Christian because Protestants and Catholics believe in the same God, who is Jesus Christ and the Holy Trinity.

as for me, i grew up with what my paternal family believed in (Taoism) and then later i found salvation and became a Protestant when i was 19. it’s nearly a decade now. personally, i’d like to see my whole family saved, so i’d like to think that my mom is a Christian – i’m hoping and praying that she believes and confesses that Jesus is her only Saviour, though i know she still prays to Mary.